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If we want our children to succeed we must expose them to new things (2120 hits)

As a parent we all want our children to do well in life. For most of us this means a child having what they want in terms of material possession and personal fulfillment. Of course some of us tend to live through our children and we want them to have what we didn’t, but that doesn’t mean that because you didn’t make it to the pros that they should.

Each child deserves to be their own person and to chart their own path in life. The more opportunities they are exposed to, the easier it will be for them to discover their own path to success.

As a young kid in Brooklyn my life revolved around a two block radius. The corner store, my public school, and my friends were all on the block or right around the corner. Parties were “block parties” that included only the people from our street. Venture too far away from the block you could get mugged, jacked or worse; and technically I didn’t need to. To this day there are people from my block who have never even been to Manhattan much less another state or country. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this type of life, but the problem is that there are no businesses, colleges or real job opportunities, on my block or even in the neighborhood.

I thank God that my parents had other ideas for me and gave me ample opportunities to venture off to try, eat, see and experience other slices of life. There have been so many times in my life I found that I was the only black person (or one of a handful of black people) in a certain situation. Whether it be a classroom, attending an event, the work environment, or a neighborhood program I often noticed the lack of African American peers around me. The effect of being one of the only black people in these situations was twofold.

1) I like this place and I wish more of "us" were here

2) How do I get more of "us" to this place so they can reap the benefits.

Because my parents exposed me to new places, new foods, new school opportunities and the like, I realized that I could do these things and actually enjoy them. I realized that I could survive in a “foreign environment” and that realization gave me the confidence to go tackle corporate America, out-of-state college, and international travel. Not only was I exposed to new opportunities, I was also exposed to new sets of peers, mentors and teachers of all races that helped me through my childhood, teens and adult career path.

Young children are going to gravitate toward what is comfortable and safe. If they are never challenged to see, eat, experience and try new things they will never know how good they can be and what opportunity awaits them. Make no mistake, my parents were not well off and exposing my sister and I to new things cost very little or no money. Going to a museum, taking the subway into Manhattan, or getting in the car and driving to another state are very inexpensive. Getting 30 free books from a book fair to encourage reading or picking up a set of colored pencils to encourage art could produce a future lawyer or architect.

As adults we need to always learn and upgrade our way of thinking if we want to progress. For our children all we have to do is point them out into the world, tell them that it is safe and they will find new opportunities, their own life, their own voice and hopefully their own success.
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Amen, Amen....
Tuesday, November 22nd 2011 at 8:54PM
Wonderfully ecouraging.
Wednesday, November 23rd 2011 at 6:42AM
MIISRAEL Bride
@Irma
The personal subject is a little off topic. The pre- wedding process is wonderful and stressful as you know. Once completed I will inform! We have discussed having at least three children however we have to decide on a particular New York Metropolitan suburb to reside in because da ladie does not want the children to be reared in Manhattan.
Wednesday, November 23rd 2011 at 9:39AM
Great blog and I thank you for all that you have said in it. Hopefully I'll take some of your tips and run with it for my own kid.

I would add to this exposing young children to a second language. Being able to speak a different language opens up doors to different places as well as prepare them to compete in the global market.


Wednesday, November 23rd 2011 at 1:23PM
Jen Fad
Thanks for the feedback everyone. As long as we keep the dialog open, talk and share with each other we can all come up!

Much love
Wednesday, November 23rd 2011 at 5:35PM
Hello to all,

I would suggest that if we really want our children to succeed we should encourage them to desire to become a sovereign nation on a reasonable and fertile portion of this continent that we could call our very own country with borders to worship God, pursue life, liberty, happiness and prosperity in our own way.

Exposing our children to new things is secondary. That will come after we are sovereign. What are primary and the only and permanent solution to our problems is that our children must desire to be sovereign. In other words, have our own country and sovereignty.

Right now we have nothing of our own. We do not have our own religion, our own prophet and our own country. Everything we have can be traced coming from another people even the Buddhist Irma is an impersonator of the people of India, am I right.

Not having the essentials of life what can you expose our children to that they could benefit? The answer is absolutely nothing!

The problem is that you all do not believe that the things I say that are going to happen for us, Black Americans are really going to happen. You all do not believe that God could do for us what God did for the children of Israel. You all really do not believe that Black Americans are going to inherit a reasonable and fertile portion of this continent that we could call our very own country. You all way of thinking are stupid, but understandable since we are descendents of slaves and slaves are not intelligent people. Am I making any sense?

So, we need to stop kidding ourselves and rehashing the same ideas as Mr. Frederick Douglass had over a hundred years ago. Wake up!

Before I close let me just illustrate a points. Mr. Garrett says that each child deserves to be their own person and to chart their own path in life. A child cannot chart their own path in life. That is the job of a good parent, neighborhood and country to do when they are children. It is easier to raise a child been to reform an adult. No the child should not be allowed to chart their own path in life.

Another point is that Mr. Garrett says, "To this day there are people from my block who have never even been to Manhattan much less another state or country. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this type of life,"
Yet Mr. Garrett express how his life was impacted by being exposed to things outside his neighborhood, but at the same time he says there is nothing wrong with a type of life of not being expose to the outer world. Mr. Garrett needs to make up his mind which way he's going, am I right.

Anyway, Black America's only and permanent solution is that we must desire to become a sovereign people on a fertile and reasonable portion of this continent that we could call our very own country with borders to brave the natural obstacles of nature for ourselves as all sovereign nations and people have done.

What say you?

Thursday, November 24th 2011 at 6:29AM
Harry Watley
WELL SAID BROTHER DARRELL!!! KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK IN THE COMMUNITY!!!
Thursday, November 24th 2011 at 5:17PM
Siebra Muhammad
You are so blessed Garrett, that you had parents that saw you as an individual with the powers to be the best person you can be.

And, thank your my brother for passing this blessing on to us all. (smile)
Thursday, April 10th 2014 at 6:47PM
O.K. Jake, what did the little lady say about our community site needs that wedding and some little tiny feet running around on this site, S-O-O-N. LOL (smile)
Thursday, April 10th 2014 at 6:47PM
I am a grandmother and please for give grandmothers fo rnot being able to have enough babies to brag about LOL ...any way I do believe this post of Garrett is a teaching moment for parents and soon to be parents as well as those who may not have children...

You see I am from the old school where it took everyone to help raise o-u-r children....again great"LIVING" post Garrett. (smile)
Thursday, April 10th 2014 at 6:47PM
@Siebra, what is the name of the famous young jazz trumpet player from your state's name, I just can't think of it now....any way he came to speak at UCD one year during Black history week there and he talked about how his mom made sure all of her children were well rounded in many things...then he joked about how taking them to listen to opera programs and their taking ballat lessons paid off in their lives in many ways as adults...then he teased the young male students if they listen to their moms they can never go wrong, just look at him...the young men just loved this...

After his speech his band played and the youth took him to the party they were having on campus.He was just one of them so natural and no put ons even as famous as he is world wide. (smile)
Thursday, April 10th 2014 at 6:47PM
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